Children Who are Whole
I listen to James Dobson and he also believes in home schooling. He said it is an adjustment when the children go to university. They have challenges when they get to the university concerning issues they were protected from. People say that the child will have to be trained to go into that environment after being at home.
It depends on how you go about it. We know a lot of people in the States that home school. We don’t even really call it that. We don’t “home church” and we don’t “home school.” We live Life. We teach our children at home. We educate them at home, but we don’t “home school.” Home school is like moving the factory system into your house. Home church is like moving the factory church building-meeting-boss guy-worship leader into the home.
That isn’t how Jesus did it with the twelve. He didn’t have home church with the twelve. They didn’t have meetings and they didn’t have Bible studies. He just loved them. As He would rise up and sit down and walk along the way with them, He would open His heart to them. And that’s how they learned.
The Pharisees and Sadducees had their way of having meetings where they would debate the Bible. They would have Bible studies, but not much came out of that. Then you have Elijah and Elisha, who walked together. Elisha got the mantle but just before Elijah left, they visited these schools of the prophets, right? Remember that? Why wasn’t Elisha in one of those schools if he was going to be a prophet? All the guys in the school for prophets just disappear. You don’t know any of their names and you never hear anymore about them. Yet Elisha goes on to do all these great miracles.
So the Pharisees do it a certain way and Jesus did it a very different way.
It’s kind of funny, but when you go through the stores during the day, you can pretty much tell when you see a home school family.
Yeah, it’s bad. It’s bad…because they look like they’re totally misadjusted. They don’t even seem real. They seem like little puppets on a string. They don’t seem well-adjusted. They don’t seem to dress or act or talk right. “Oh, that must be a home schooler.”
When you have a home school convention, then a whole bunch of people like that are all in one place. It’s strange, and that’s what James Dobson is talking about. Those people do have a hard time when they go to a university. They get made fun of. But I guarantee that our children don’t get made fun of.
You couldn’t pick them out in that way.
They’re very quickly worthy of respect because they are whole people. They’re not “home schooled.” They are very whole because their friends from the time they were born were adults. They have all these friends—a hundred mothers, brothers, and sisters—who are very accomplished people in the business world and are very wise and mature and experienced in their own circumstances.
So the best friends of a 7-year-old are three adults that are wise, loving, caring, and Jesus-centered. Young children are asking the adults questions, and by the time they’re twelve they’re like Jesus in the temple. They’re astounding the so-called scholars who are just regurgitating information, because the children are talking and thinking on a different level than you would expect from a child.
If you let the children run in packs with their peers and disciple each other, then what you have is a school situation at home. And it’s with basically unqualified teachers. Let’s face it—the teachers in the public schools or even Christian schools normally have an education degree. They have a system and a curriculum. They’ve got all the tools, the textbooks, the chalkboards, the classrooms, the structure and the principal to send the children to. From the taxpayers’ money and all that, they’ve got everything at their disposal.
If you take the parents of all of those children in the school system and say, “Teach your own children,” the parents aren’t qualified. They’re not motivated and they don’t have the tools. They haven’t been doing the same thing year after year.
(Speaking to a school teacher) You’re just in your second year of teaching public school now. Just think how easy it will be in your fifth, sixth and seventh year in terms of the curriculum part, right?
I’ve actually been teaching for nine years.
Oh, ok. This is your second year at this school?
Yes, the second year at this school.
So compare your first and second year to your fifth or sixth. Didn’t it get easier as you went because you had a handle on how to communicate and what to expect and how to pace things? Well, a parent only gets one shot at it. They have a 5-year-old and then a 6-year-old and then a 7-year-old. They just grow one year at a time. You can’t ever really keep up. Then you have a couple more children and then you’re trying to teach both of them at the same time.
If it’s bringing the factory school into the home and superimposing it, then parents feel unqualified. It’s probably accurate, because they don’t have the tools, plus they’re trying to be a parent and keep the house at the same time. They’ve got a bunch of distractions and others responsibilities that the teachers don’t have. It’s no wonder that James Dobson is reflecting on how things work.
They’re tortured when they get to university because they have to adjust.
We’ve never had that problem though, honestly. They’re very well-adjusted and very wise.
And those who haven’t gone to a university have found good jobs and have done very well also.
We have children that basically “dropped out” of public school. Their parents saw the Kingdom of God for what it was when their children were already twelve or thirteen years old. These children were basically drop-outs of public school.